My Eternal Flame

I like fire. Not in a crazy arson kind of way but in a warm, spiritual sense. At our home, we have plenty of candles, various candle holders and a small collection of hurricane lamps, which came in very handy last year during the blackouts after Hurricane Irene and the October snow storm.

For the past few days, a different kind of candle has been burning in my house – a memorial candle for my mom who passed away last Wednesday. The candle and light symbolize the body and soul, as it is written in the Book of Proverbs  – “Man’s soul is the Lord’s candle.”  In case you are wondering, I got that quote from a google search, not because of my Biblical knowledge.

This candle brings a different sort of spirituality into my home and I look at this candle differently than any other candle or flame I have ever seen before. It brings me sadness but at the same time I see my mother in that flame. She was bright and warm, life flickered and danced within her, and she illuminated the world.

In a few days, the light from the candle will fade but my mother’s flame never will. I will carry my mother and her eternal flame with me for all the rest of my days. When the memorial candle finally goes out, I will continue to light candles and hurricane lamps, and stare at the flame within. In each flicker, I will see my mother knowing that she continues to light my world as my own eternal flame.


About IraSez

I am the owner of Monarch Communications, a graphic design/advertising/website design firm in Millburn, NJ. You can take a look at some of our work at I started IraSez at the urging of my wife, a couple of friends and several facebook friends who actually encouraged me to write a book. They think I'm funny but some of my latest blogs have covered some rather somber topics. In my spare time, I run the local SU alumni club. I'm in the 9th year of a 3 year term or as us SU grads called "fuzzy math." I'm SU '82, wife is SU '83, daughter is SU '11, son is SU '14, even my nephew goes to SU. So yes, we bleed Orange. I like to play golf, watch the same movies over and over, and take long walks with my dog on the trails in South Mountain Reservation behind Old Short Hills. If you see a guy wearing something with an SU logo chasing after a dog named Cosmo, that's me!
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3 Responses to My Eternal Flame

  1. Lizzie says:

    beautifully said!!

  2. Adrienne Bergen says:

    This is beautiful. Your mom can be really proud. Sorry for your loss.. Barry and Adrienne

  3. Gina Sideris says:

    A lovely tribute. So sorry for your loss.

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