Memo to my young facebook friends

Let me start by saying I like facebook. Afterall, it was facebook that played a role in the birth of this blog. That and Linda who nagged me….I mean encouraged me to do this.

I got a facebook account because the folks in alumni relations at SU told all the alumni club presidents (I preside over the North Jersey Alumni Club) to use facebook to keep in touch with the younger alums. Not sure it has worked out as planned but it has worked out fine for me. I am now in touch with Baker Hills friends, GNN friends, Lenox friends, SU friends and many more.

One of the rules I lived by for the first couple of years I was on facebook was I would not “friend” my children’s friends, even when asked and I was asked. You had to be at least 1/2 my age or a young SU alum for us to be “friends.” But in the last few months I sort of threw that rule out the window as I figured everyone was doing it, so I guess it was OK.

To my young facebook friends, I want to talk with you directly. Now that you are my “friend” I can see you and even though you try to hide from me, you have friends who are not so savvy. I’m not stalking you or looking to see what you are doing but if it’s there in front of me, I can’t help but see it. If you are not watching what other people are posting, well then I can see you, them and what you all are doing. And if I can see you, think of who else can see you. People have lost their jobs, been thrown out of college and have had other bad things happen to them just because of what they put on facebook. The rumor is that facebook played a role in my fraternity being closed at SU because of what one brother posted on his account. Read the newspaper and see all the problems that facebook is having with privacy issues. If it happens to other people, it can happen to you.

Now I have a confession to make. In “researching” this post, I looked a little and all I have to say is Keystone Light? Really? That stuff is god awful. At least buy some good beer.


About IraSez

I am the owner of Monarch Communications, a graphic design/advertising/website design firm in Millburn, NJ. You can take a look at some of our work at I started IraSez at the urging of my wife, a couple of friends and several facebook friends who actually encouraged me to write a book. They think I'm funny but some of my latest blogs have covered some rather somber topics. In my spare time, I run the local SU alumni club. I'm in the 9th year of a 3 year term or as us SU grads called "fuzzy math." I'm SU '82, wife is SU '83, daughter is SU '11, son is SU '14, even my nephew goes to SU. So yes, we bleed Orange. I like to play golf, watch the same movies over and over, and take long walks with my dog on the trails in South Mountain Reservation behind Old Short Hills. If you see a guy wearing something with an SU logo chasing after a dog named Cosmo, that's me!
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4 Responses to Memo to my young facebook friends

  1. Jeff Pappalardo says:

    Ira, I’ve had to have a few conversations with Grace about her posts. They live in such a cloistered world in college and don’t see outside of it. Mostly language issues, no booze or drugs, thank God. Enjoying your posts.

  2. lizzie says:

    Will they listen?? Can I text this blog to a few kids??? Let’s hear what the kids have to say-I’m curious……

  3. Gina says:

    Also, there are the people who post about their vacations. Yes, I know it’s exciting to be traveling to Sydney, and you want to share that excitement with friends, but why not just say, “I will be gone for three weeks, so that should be long enough for you to clean out my house?”

    The “cocoon” concept of the Facebook world knows no age limits….

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